The mood you are in at any given moment in time will affect everything going on, in and around you. When I refer to moods, I simply mean emotional states, such as happy, motivated, curious, sad, excited, confident, or highly energised. The mood you choose to be in will influence others, so choose wisely, depending on the atmosphere you want to create to cultivate wonderful productivity, motivation and harmony.
Let’s examine two benefits to taking control of your mood: congruence and influence.
When you know how to be in the best mood for what you want to do, you will achieve your desired outcome. You will be congruent—your thoughts, the pictures in your mind, and your mood will all be aligned, and you will be creating the energy of the environment you are in (at work, home etc.).
Here’s how easy it is to get into any mood you choose. Let’s do it together now. Consider a mood state of being 100 per cent capable—capable of being or achieving whatever you put your heart, mind, and soul into. Have you ever truly felt capable? If you are reading this thinking, “Well, not 100 per cent,” that’s okay. Ask yourself what it feels like to be really capable or exceptionally capable or highly capable.
Think of an actual time when you really felt capable. If needed, ask yourself, “Can I remember a time when I was really capable? A specific time?”
Generate a mental image of this time. Be sure you are looking through your own eyes here—experiencing everything as though it were happening right now. Get a really solid sense of what it feels like inside when you are really capable. What do you see? What sounds do you hear? What thoughts are running through your mind now as you feel really capable?
If you have been focused on what was asked of you in this short paragraph, you will undeniably feel capable! If you do not feel capable, ask yourself, “What was I focusing on instead?”
This process works for any mood you choose. Take a moment now to practice bringing your thoughts, beliefs, and moods into congruence. Repeat the above process for the following positive and healthy moods:
You have the ability to influence other people to go into the same mood as you, so choose your mood carefully!
Are there times where it would be useful for you and others to be in a particular mood to achieve a desired outcome? One example that immediately comes to mind is in workplace meetings. As a business consultant for the corporate, government, and mining-and-resources sectors, I frequently received feedback that a great deal of time was wasted in meetings that go nowhere.
The intended goal for the Monday-morning meeting was to have all agenda items heard and appropriate actions assigned within forty-five minutes. Potentially useful mood states for the attendees to take action and be aligned with the goal might include motivated, focused, and efficient.
Now, when people first arrive at work or to a meeting, you really have no clue what has happened to them before they arrived—rushing, traffic jam, argument with a partner, or coming back from days off. That means you may have ten people arriving at the meeting in ten different and possibly unhelpful mood states. This equates to ten opportunities to not achieve the goal of the meeting.
Therefore, because you are capable of influencing others, you need to be sure that if the other attendees’ mood states are not ideal for the purpose of the meeting, you can move them into a useful mood. You can do this in two ways:
The great news is, you will influence the mood of those around you based on your mood. The bad news is, you will influence the mood of those around you based on your mood. Therefore, be sure to choose your mood purposefully, always keeping the achievement of the intended goal in mind.
What are useful moods you can create to influence positive outcomes in your workplace?