Being personally empowered as a woman means being who you really are all the time.
Successful women know who they are, they are happy ‘in their own skin’ and don’t feel the need to be the person others want them to be. Neither do they mould their behaviour, personality or values to suit those with whom they hang around. Or with whom they sit at the boardroom table.
Simply, they are true to themselves, and are genuine and authentic – predictable and unwavering in their way of being.
Women who know and accept themselves are people who take responsibility for their own happiness and lives and don’t rely on others (particularly a partner) to make them happy or to ‘complete’ them. They do it themselves and if they struggle to do so, they get help in the form of coaching, mentoring or counselling.
Warts and All
Being successful means looking at what you do well, and being able to see what you struggle with. Realising that you have areas on which to focus to improve. Nobody is perfect (although you may have met some who think they are close to perfection!) and living authentically means knowing there are things you need to work on in order to live a better life, have good relationships around you and generally live happily.
These women accept themselves warts and all, but strive to work on, and improve, those behaviors, thoughts or actions that compromise their effectiveness.
Why is Oprah so successful?
She has broken down the walls of her ego and chiseled through her outer shell over the years and what we get to experience is a woman who is completely authentic.
There is no acting or behavior to entertain or make certain people happy. Her raw emotions and the words that come out of her mouth are connected to her divine nature.
The divine in her connects with the divine nature in each of us, which is why we all love her.
Being authentic means being genuine. True to yourself at all costs. You don’t have to change the very essence of who you are whether you’re talking to a homeless person of conversing with a Prime Minister. You are you and want to live true to your beliefs, passions and values.
You are an authentic woman who lives a life of integrity and purpose. You’re compassionate and passionate about the rights of every human being, young and old. Black and White. Asian or African. You are a child’s advocate, an elder’s guardian and a woman’s voice of reason. You’re not immune to pain and sorrows of life, but, you’ve learned that it’s never good to settle into a place of misery.
11 Signs of Being an Authentic Woman
Authenticity or being genuine may be different things to different woman. We don’t all have the same perceptions of things, including how we see ourselves and the world around us.
- They recognise the emptiness found in material things
- They recognise that experiences make their lives richer
- They truly listen to others. Do you?
- They express their thoughts, feelings and views unapologetically
- They are not people pleasers
- They see value in giving love to others
- They love themselves
- They are willing to see and acknowledge their faults
- They understand we are all unique and that is ok
- They take responsibility for their lives
- They’re connected to their own inner guide
The point is that empowered women are authentic people. They have taken control of their lives and live it honestly, and take full responsibility for their destiny and making sure they get to where they want to go.
What are your strengths, areas for improvements and opportunities to be the best woman you can be and what are the threats that may prevent you from becoming so? Time is an example.
Take two hours out of your busy schedule and answer these questions as you move towards greater self-insight and heightened personal empowerment.