Have You Ever Struggled With a Procrastinator?
Patient and stabilising communicators … can struggle with procrastination.
In strength, this steady gentle style is one that is warm, welcoming, all about relationship and somewhat more reserved than the playful or powerful styles. However, they can really struggle with procrastination, they like to change at their pace, if at all.
These guys are all about consistency, predictability and people. There is no doubt you would have someone with this style in your life, as this is the most common communication style ( around 35% of the population).
Patient communicators are described as the glue that holds us all together. While the Powerful style is trying to control things and make decisions the Playful style is all about fun, the Perfectionist is all about things being right, the Patient style is consistent, caring and loyal.
This style craves predictability, they love processes if someone else sets them up, they will follow the right leader to the very end, and they are committed to their cause. They will work quietly without the bells and whistles to get the job done.
Don’t expect noise and fan fare. They are reliable and work to a slower and steadier pace. They will not cause an uproar and are not likely to speak out against things. These guys will avoid conflict like the plague, are slower to speak up and want everyone to get along.
I am surrounded by this gentle style, as it is the complete opposite to my powerful and perfectionistic traits. This style is calm, serene, and peaceful. They don’t get easily flustered and have the best poker face around (they rarely show their emotions on the outside).
When this style is understood they are a loyal team member; they promote calm and stability and will work tirelessly for a cause. When misunderstood they can seem quiet, uninvolved, avoidant even passive aggressive.
Change is a really big issue for these guys, they crave consistency even if it is destructive. They are quite like the ostrich putting their head in the sand thinking the issue will just go away. As you may imagine, facing an issue and trying to work through with this style, can be extremely difficult. The harder you push the more they shut down.
However, as it is with all of the styles each of us brings our own unique strengths to the table. The patient and stable style brings about much needed calm and consistency, without them it would feel like utter madness. The key, if you relate to this, is to realise that procrastination can be a real problem. It stems from your dislike of change. If you struggle with the idea of change a good place to start is firstly to know this, then to look at change in a few different ways, including the positive side of it.
Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Conscious Communicator
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