Have You Ever Struggled With Perfectionism?
Are you a perfectionist, or do you know one? In terms of the Communication Styles, the ‘Perfectionist’ style is the one who is most likely to struggle with this trait. If you live with, work with or love a perfectionist, you may be relating already.
Let me refresh your memory, the Perfectionist Communicator is all about procedures, processes and perfection.
This style loves compliance. By compliance we mean working to a system or order, not compliant. Particularly to your own system or order however this style will work to someone else’s system or process if they agree with it, or if they see it as correct.
This communication style is all about getting things right. If you know someone with this style they are more reserved and task focused. They are great at details, probably love stationary (known from personal experience) and are highly organised in many ways.
These guys are fearful of their work being criticised, how could they not be when perfection is their benchmark. However, beware of criticising their work as they put a lot of effort into it being right. It hurts them intensely if they are corrected, especially if it is not done gently.
If you are working with someone with this style they will love details, if you challenge their facts you will need to provide statistical backup because they do know their stuff. I know one Perfectionist Communicator who reads the Australian Taxation website for fun (I have a headache just thinking about that). They prefer a quiet and consistent work environment where any changes are explained, where they can be some type of technical expert.
So perfectionism is a big deal to these guys. REALLY. I know this because this is my second strongest trait and in testing I scored 87%. This has long been held as a negative trait however, it can depend on your definition. In the negative it can stifle progress because you are expecting something unrealistic. It can cause paralysis and anxiety beyond description. It can mess with expectations both in there workplace and at home.
So how can we view this positively?
The Greek definition is “a continual journey toward maturity.” Now this is not how I have used it, or how I would described myself when I am perplexed because something won’t look or fit the way I want it too. However, I would be a better human if this were my definition. So to any one else out there who is brave enough to say that you have struggled with perfectionism either in yourself or expecting it form other lets change how we see it. We can all benefit from this definition of a continual journey toward maturity – I say bring it on!
Until next time, Connect, Care and be a Conscious Communicator.
Let’s change our world for the better, one conversation at a time.