Turn Your Inner Critic Into A Coach
Self-image is probably the most empowering concept that once understood is your key to everything, creating the results you really want in your business and your life.
Your mind controls your body and your body controls your actions and then your results. If you want your results to change, you must change what is in your mind as this is what controls your behaviour.
Never beat yourself up. You have to be your own coach, an encourager a supporter.
When you are in business quite often you have to make decisions and back yourself when everybody else is telling you to do the opposite. Sometimes it will be like you are the only one on your team. This takes courage and pertinent decision-making.
Rather than questioning yourself, have the courage to move away from the masses and go in to bat for yourself. To do this you will need to become aware of your inner critic and self talk.
What does the inner critic usually do? It berates you, tells you that you aren’t good enough, that you can’t do that, that you aren’t confident enough. It compares you to others, makes you feel guilty, and continually judges you. You would never speak to anyone else the way you speak to yourself – Right?
This is more common than you realise. Some people are born with the mindset and subconscious program that they can do anything; they believe anything is possible and they have the confidence to back themselves. The majority of people are born with that inner critic that is self-sabotaging their success.
If you are critical towards yourself it is only going to chip away at your self-image. Your self-image is stored in the subconscious part of your mind. It is how you see yourself based upon your genetic and environmental conditioning along side your own experiences. It is the belief, the opinions that you hold of yourself. If you are not happy with the results in you business maybe your life is where you will need to make some changes and build a new self-image paradigm. You need to understand how your self-image is formed and how it is serving you right now for failure or success.
“Self image sets the boundaries of individual accomplishment”
I love what Maxwell Maltz shares in his book Psychocybernetics – a must read!! “Your goals in life are filtered through your self-image, and if they are inconsistent with the self-image, they are rejected or modified. By discovering how to alter your self-image, you end its conflict with your goals”.
You cannot afford to be critical. Every time you are critical towards yourself you are taking yourself further away from where you want to be. You have to become aware of how you actually talk to yourself and change it. No more berating yourself, calling yourself stupid, dumb, not good enough. No self-criticism and no complaining. You would never treat another person the way you treat or speak to yourself and it has to stop. You have to start treating yourself as the most important person and be encouraging of yourself. Every time you are empowering yourself and saying, “Come on lets get this thing moving” you begin to move towards the results that you want. Be kind to yourself. Tell your self that you can do it. Be enthusiastic. Have a great attitude inside and out. Your self-talk will be huge in transforming your confidence and results in business.
If you make a mistake, own it and move on – be done with it. Do not focus on anything around it. Everyone makes mistakes. It is part of your growth. See them as learning opportunities. You have to get yourself mentally up to standard. What you focus on expands. You want to focus on the solutions and opportunities ahead of you.
Celebrate you and create a strong, confident self-image that will move you in the direction you want for yourself and your business.