Issues At Work? Check Your Unconscious Blueprints™
If you feel stressed by the people at work, you’re not alone. Perhaps this was even one of the strong motivators for you setting up your own business?
The American Institute of Stress found 28% of work stress was ‘people issues’ and 46% ‘workload’, which also has a people element to it. The Australian Psychological Society’s Stress and Well-Being Survey 2014 reflected that, after health-related stress issues, workplace stress came next. And of course, too much of the wrong stress not balanced or managed leads to health issues anyway.
Workplace people stress includes bullying and harassment, too few promotional opportunities without playing office politics, discrimination, organisational change and poor relationships with colleagues and/or bosses. As discussed in recent blogs (see links to my previous posts below), your internal self-image, your unconscious blueprint™ of yourself, impacts on your self-esteem, self-confidence and therefore relationships, boundary setting and success level.
We also have unconscious blueprints™ of others, which can disempower them or us, impacting greatly on working relationships, plus workplace and team dynamics. This also applies when you run your own business, it just happens with customers, clients, suppliers and other business owners.
Think of someone you feel intimidated by, incredibly jealous of, or in awe of. Your unconscious blueprints of them disempowers you. You’ll struggle to feel confident, be articulate, set boundaries and perform at your peak with these people.
Think of someone you look down on or are dismissive of. Perhaps a casual, a junior, an older employee or someone whose physical appearance doesn’t match your standards. Your unconscious blueprints’ influence on your behaviour disempowers them, which ultimately is a disservice to yourself. You are missing opportunities to bring out their best, to teach, lead and encourage growth, including in yourself. You also never know who they know. What if the very person who you need to connect with to grow your business or career expediently happens to be their sister or nephew?
To find out how you can easily identify and change your unconscious blueprints by reading my book, “The Face Within: How To Change Your Unconscious Blueprint.”
In addition, ensure you are also managing your workplace stress levels with these points:
- Prioritise relaxation and exercise. If you don’t have time for it, you certainly don’t have time to be ill. Get moving, have fun, you’ll think more clearly, be more productive and stay healthier.
- Work out your priorities at the end of each day and clear your desk so you start your day feeling in control. It gives your creativity time to work overnight, and helps you sleep more restfully too.
- Say no, or at least negotiate the amount and timing of extra work. If you keep saying yes they will assume you aren’t busy enough and will load you up until you collapse. This applies to your clients and family members too.
- Don’t take things personally. People have bad days, different communication styles and expectations. Ask for clarification of intent, or if they are okay. However, no need to be a doormat. Set boundaries on behaviour.
- Be aware of your stress triggers and learn how to manage or remove them. Anything you respond quickly to in a negative way (anger, anxiety, hurt, guilt) is a stress trigger. You don’t have to live with them, the triggers I mean, unless they are your family. We can de-trigger you either way, for a more peaceful life. Be calmly assertive rather than roaring angry or silently seething.
- Remember you have support around you. Don’t assume people see you drowning. You may be an incredibly good actor! Ask for the specific help you need, whether it is a hug or a total workload and position description review. Or mindset coaching with an expert.
In the meantime, just notice how you react to individuals, and whether you are putting yourself up or down in relation to them. With awareness, you can learn how to consciously make different choices in your thoughts and actions.
Remember, the impact of your unconscious blueprints of yourself and others in the workplace, and in your business, is hugely significant. Allow yourself to ask for the help you need and take action. Otherwise, if nothing changes, nothing changes. (Which is only a great thing if your name is Nothing!)