Are Your Unconscious Blueprints™ Holding Your Children Back?
Do your children (of any age) complain you treat them like little children? Chances are that's how you see them inside, in your unconscious blueprints™, as cute little ones needing your care. Allowing them to grow up, inside and out, improves your relationship, plus assists them in growing into the confident, resilient, compassionate adults you'll be proud to claim as your own.
My WNA blog post https://www.womensnetwork.com.au/your-unconscious-blueprints-are-your-answer-an-introduction/ explains how our internal images, our ‘unconscious blueprints’ of ourselves, programmes our behaviour. Our unconscious blueprints of others determine how we perceive and therefore treat them. Christmas family gatherings are the perfect time to observe the consequences in action. Possibly you’ve experienced it yourself, with your own parents treating you like the child you used to be, and sometimes you might slip back into acting like that child too! Or perhaps your older siblings treat you like the younger child rather than as the mature, confident and intelligent adult you are.
It doesn’t feel good and sets the scene for conflict. Likewise, your children, unless feeling ill (we all want some parental pampering then), want to be treated appropriately to their chronological ages. By holding a much younger image of them inside, you’ll become overprotective, which can smother, sparking rebellion, or smother their confidence, damping the spark of life and adventure. The consequences can be adult children who never leave home, continually sponging off parents financially, and not taking responsibility for their own lives and the consequences of their actions.
It’s through risk-taking and stretching our abilities that we learn and grow, and experience the satisfaction of overcoming challenges. Getting results we don’t want can build resilience, creative problem solving and critical thinking. Doing your child’s homework or projects is never a good idea, for that reason, if not for teaching honesty. Showing your offspring you believe in them by allowing them to make their own decisions and deal with their own consequences, is a form of love which truly nourishes and bonds.
So what can you do if you suspect you have disempowering unconscious blueprints of your children? Working with a mindset coach can re-programme your blueprints quickly and easily. As well, in the home, workplace, in your wallet, and on social media, ensure all photos displayed are current ones. That helps enormously. Be aware of resistance, and comments, and be open to honestly exploring your words and behaviour, to ensure they are appropriate to the chronological age of the ‘children’. Mind your language, and use, for example, ‘offspring’ or ‘name and name’ instead of ‘children’ or ‘kids’.
Most of all, be kind to yourself and relax and enjoy getting to know them as they are now. You no longer have to always know the right answer – what a relief!
To learn how your unconscious blueprints of yourself and others also impact negatively in your workplace, and how to reduce that added stress, read https://www.womensnetwork.com.au/how-to-reduce-workplace-stress-quickly-by-changing-your-unconscious-blueprints/
To explore how to give yourself a quick clean slate and a fresh start to your relationships, including with yourself, book in for a complimentary chat via www.SueLester.com . You can also read or listen to my book, “The Face Within: How To Change Your Unconscious Blueprint”. Available from my website and all great online bookstores.